We feel hurt and angry when someone has wronged us. Let’s be honest: Forgiving someone who has wronged us is extremely hard. Sure, we verbally affirm that we have forgiven them upon their asking for forgiveness for their wrongful act against us. However, do we really forgive them, or do we continue to dwell on it anyway?
Ephesians 4:32 (ESV):
Be kind to one another, tenderhearted,
forgiving one another,
as God in Christ forgave you.
It is important to keep things in perspective when someone has sinned against us. That is, our sin to a Holy God is grosser than the sin others have committed against us. And if God has forgiven us, we as believers can forgive. Part of forgiveness is also forgetting. When you forgive someone, you are also choosing not to ever dwell on how they have wronged you anymore.
If you are struggling to forgive someone, I encourage you to spend time meditating on the cross of Jesus Christ. Because if the cross of Christ has healed your heart, you will be able to forgive.